Zzyzx Road Saturday, September 09, 2006
New York: What I Realized
New York defintely matured me in 3 months. Not only did it give me a larger than life perspective of what is possible, it also helped me to know what really matters in life. I think I matured more in 3 months than I have in the last 5 years.
Here are some of the brief points that I felt my time in New York City made me realize about myself and the world.
1. People are primary. People are the most important commodity that we have in the world. The way to succeed in life, is to have people like you for you. Connecting with people and using them for mutual benefit is essential, especially in business.
2. It's not them, it's you. Usually, I've found when people aren't my friends or people aren't gelling with me (women), that it's not them: It's me. Responsibility for your life is in your hands, not someone elses. Look at yourself, and retrospect. Are you the type of person you would be friends/in a relationship with? Hmmm....
3. Money is easy. Money is easy to collect, you just need to know how, and drive yourself to your goals through passion. If you aren't doing something that's passionate to you, you WILL fail. Find something that's passionate to you, then you will find something that's of value to others.
4. Goals complete life. Everything in this life is goal orientated. From gym, wealth, relationships, and spirituality. If you don't have goals, you will fail, or simply put, you won't fail, because you didn't have anything to accomplish. Change that. So many people don't know what they want from there college career. What do they want to do?
5. Places are what you know about them. I learnt by traveling around New York City and visiting landmarks, is that the landmarks were USELESS and BORING unless I knew what happened there. By simply researching and understanding what happened, or what a certain place was used for, provided me with an enormous respect and awe of what I was now experiencing. It creates a different atomosphere and a more fulfilling time.
6. Passion is attractive. I've noticed as I've accepted my passions, my preferences and my perspectives in life, and not conforming to what society tell me is cool or fun, I've been far more attractive to people, and far more attracted to myself as a person. I've realized I've got a tremedous amount to offer my future partner (wife), friends, and people that are in my life. Such examples are: travel, art, what I will accept and will not accept in relationships, books, etc.
7. Family and friends are most important. Family and friends are the most important things in life. Period. Without relationships, I am incomplete.
8. Never accepting negativity. Negativity in people and society is counterproductive and is repulsive towards people who are positive. (Which I hope I am)
9. Travel matures you. Besides being FUN, travel is what expands your mind and your attitude. It's the spice of life, and must be done.
10. Understanding before prejudice. I've made a few gay friends in New York, and I definetly judged them before I knew who they were. I don't accept what they do, but I do love them for who they are. There are a million other prejudices that I have, that I'm trying to abolish. (Some I like to keep for amusement)
11. Quality far better than quantity. This is something my friend Stephen Shelley told me: It's better to have 1 x $80 dress shirt, than 4 x $20 dress shirts. They last longer, look better, and show that you have more respect for this temple that is our bodies. Everything in life, is better with quality not quantity. It's better to have one quality girlfriend than 10 quantity hookups. It's more fulfilling to have one great trip to Spain than 6 ok trips to Las Vegas. It's better to have 5 great friends instead of 20 so-so untrustworthy friends. You get the point, and it makes life better.
** This list will change, and is not complete **
Overall, I think positivity and lifestyle rules. Having a lifestyle that you find fulfilling and living it. If you don't have it yet, take action now.
Here are some of the brief points that I felt my time in New York City made me realize about myself and the world.
1. People are primary. People are the most important commodity that we have in the world. The way to succeed in life, is to have people like you for you. Connecting with people and using them for mutual benefit is essential, especially in business.
2. It's not them, it's you. Usually, I've found when people aren't my friends or people aren't gelling with me (women), that it's not them: It's me. Responsibility for your life is in your hands, not someone elses. Look at yourself, and retrospect. Are you the type of person you would be friends/in a relationship with? Hmmm....
3. Money is easy. Money is easy to collect, you just need to know how, and drive yourself to your goals through passion. If you aren't doing something that's passionate to you, you WILL fail. Find something that's passionate to you, then you will find something that's of value to others.
4. Goals complete life. Everything in this life is goal orientated. From gym, wealth, relationships, and spirituality. If you don't have goals, you will fail, or simply put, you won't fail, because you didn't have anything to accomplish. Change that. So many people don't know what they want from there college career. What do they want to do?
5. Places are what you know about them. I learnt by traveling around New York City and visiting landmarks, is that the landmarks were USELESS and BORING unless I knew what happened there. By simply researching and understanding what happened, or what a certain place was used for, provided me with an enormous respect and awe of what I was now experiencing. It creates a different atomosphere and a more fulfilling time.
6. Passion is attractive. I've noticed as I've accepted my passions, my preferences and my perspectives in life, and not conforming to what society tell me is cool or fun, I've been far more attractive to people, and far more attracted to myself as a person. I've realized I've got a tremedous amount to offer my future partner (wife), friends, and people that are in my life. Such examples are: travel, art, what I will accept and will not accept in relationships, books, etc.
7. Family and friends are most important. Family and friends are the most important things in life. Period. Without relationships, I am incomplete.
8. Never accepting negativity. Negativity in people and society is counterproductive and is repulsive towards people who are positive. (Which I hope I am)
9. Travel matures you. Besides being FUN, travel is what expands your mind and your attitude. It's the spice of life, and must be done.
10. Understanding before prejudice. I've made a few gay friends in New York, and I definetly judged them before I knew who they were. I don't accept what they do, but I do love them for who they are. There are a million other prejudices that I have, that I'm trying to abolish. (Some I like to keep for amusement)
11. Quality far better than quantity. This is something my friend Stephen Shelley told me: It's better to have 1 x $80 dress shirt, than 4 x $20 dress shirts. They last longer, look better, and show that you have more respect for this temple that is our bodies. Everything in life, is better with quality not quantity. It's better to have one quality girlfriend than 10 quantity hookups. It's more fulfilling to have one great trip to Spain than 6 ok trips to Las Vegas. It's better to have 5 great friends instead of 20 so-so untrustworthy friends. You get the point, and it makes life better.
** This list will change, and is not complete **
Overall, I think positivity and lifestyle rules. Having a lifestyle that you find fulfilling and living it. If you don't have it yet, take action now.
# posted by Donovan @ 7:07 PM 
